It’s important that when you’re with a girl that she knows that you like her but at the same time it’s also important that you don’t smother her, right, and you don’t, you know, completely just come… come across of being really needy right because that’s not attractive either. So there is kind of a fine line there now first thing I want to caution you because if you are too careful of like [Imitating] “I don’t want to like…do this but I don’t wanna…” Like, first you’re just making yourself nervous and you’re getting too much in your head and you’re not just present with a girl and actually enjoying the fact that you’re with a great girl, right. Another thing too is, a lot of guys, they can start playing too many games, right, and then the girl’s just like “Man, I don’t get this guy, he just seems weird!” Ok, so there’s like some ways that you can kind of mess it up by trying to not mess it up, ok.
So then you kind of shoot yourself in the foot because you’re trying to avoid a problem anyway, right. Another thing too is, so you want to let her know that you like her. Now if it’s just your first date or two, like if a girl’s dating you that means she’s single, that means she’s probably dating other guys too. Like, most of the time.
Any girl that is, you know, if you found her on Tinder or if you met her in the nightclub, she probably got a few other guy’s numbers at night, she’s probably messaging other guys on tinder, she’s probably going on other dates with other guys on tinder and so on. Now even if you aren’t the guy that she likes… even if you’re the guy she likes the most, it’s still a case of a fine line again between you want to catch up fairly regularly because if you leave it like, more than like, too many days, she’s gone on other dates with lots of other guys and you know she could be gone. But also you don’t want to see her necessarily on consecutive days like all the time, because that can be like a bit full-on and it can seem like maybe you’re a bit too needy and so on, right. So there is a fine line, so the answer is there’s no real absolute perfect solution answer time-line thing.
It’s just there’s some considerations and you just have to kind of make a call, and then you know, just hope that that works out. So more importantly than, you know, when you actually see her is, when you do see her is that you’re moving things forward quickly, and well, and smoothly which is obviously things like our ‘Three Step First Date Strategy’ will help you with that, and also that when you follow up you have good strong follow-up and that it makes sure that she’s going to want to see you again anyway. So if you’ve had a first date with a girl, if you did things like our ‘Three Step First Date Strategy’ and you had an AMAZING first date, the only reason why you wouldn’t see her again is, you know, unlikely but you know, because if she likes you enough to go on a date with you, generally if you make a great first date there’s no reason why like, barring some absolutely random thing about your personality she absolutely HATES, you know, that she’s not going to want to see you again, alright.
So the main way to take care of this is to…to make sure you have a great date with her when she IS with you, and secondly to have really good follow up so that you do actually see her again. Another good tip I’d give you is, you know…never leave a date without setting up or making it very clear you want to see her on another date. Because a lot of girls, they’re just like us sometimes you know, after a date, like “Ah, so, what happens now?
It’s important that when you’re with a girl that she knows that you like her but at the same time it’s also important that you don’t smother her, right, and you don’t, you know, completely just come… come across of being really needy right because that’s not attractive either. So there is kind of a fine line there now first thing I want to caution you because if you are too careful of like [Imitating] “I don’t want to like…do this but I don’t wanna…” Like, first you’re just making yourself nervous and you’re getting too much in your head and you’re not just present with a girl and actually enjoying the fact that you’re with a great girl, right. Another thing too is, a lot of guys, they can start playing too many games, right, and then the girl’s just like “Man, I don’t get this guy, he just seems weird!” Ok, so there’s like some ways that you can kind of mess it up by trying to not mess it up, ok.
So then you kind of shoot yourself in the foot because you’re trying to avoid a problem anyway, right. Another thing too is, so you want to let her know that you like her. Now if it’s just your first date or two, like if a girl’s dating you that means she’s single, that means she’s probably dating other guys too. Like, most of the time.
Any girl that is, you know, if you found her on Tinder or if you met her in the nightclub, she probably got a few other guy’s numbers at night, she’s probably messaging other guys on tinder, she’s probably going on other dates with other guys on tinder and so on. Now even if you aren’t the guy that she likes… even if you’re the guy she likes the most, it’s still a case of a fine line again between you want to catch up fairly regularly because if you leave it like, more than like, too many days, she’s gone on other dates with lots of other guys and you know she could be gone. But also you don’t want to see her necessarily on consecutive days like all the time, because that can be like a bit full-on and it can seem like maybe you’re a bit too needy and so on, right. So there is a fine line, so the answer is there’s no real absolute perfect solution answer time-line thing.
It’s just there’s some considerations and you just have to kind of make a call, and then you know, just hope that that works out. So more importantly than, you know, when you actually see her is, when you do see her is that you’re moving things forward quickly, and well, and smoothly which is obviously things like our ‘Three Step First Date Strategy’ will help you with that, and also that when you follow up you have good strong follow-up and that it makes sure that she’s going to want to see you again anyway. So if you’ve had a first date with a girl, if you did things like our ‘Three Step First Date Strategy’ and you had an AMAZING first date, the only reason why you wouldn’t see her again is, you know, unlikely but you know, because if she likes you enough to go on a date with you, generally if you make a great first date there’s no reason why like, barring some absolutely random thing about your personality she absolutely HATES, you know, that she’s not going to want to see you again, alright.
So the main way to take care of this is to…to make sure you have a great date with her when she IS with you, and secondly to have really good follow up so that you do actually see her again. Another good tip I’d give you is, you know…never leave a date without setting up or making it very clear you want to see her on another date. Because a lot of girls, they’re just like us sometimes you know, after a date, like “Ah, so, what happens now?
Like, do I need to see him again? Or does he want to see me again?” Right. So make it clear by the end of the first date that you actually want to see her again. one way of doing this is never let a girl leave a date with you without TRYING to kiss her. That doesn’t mean that you will kiss her, but it at least lets her know that look “I’m attracted to you and I’m confident enough and prepared enough to actually do something about it” okay. So yeah, really have a great date when you do it.
Secondly, have strong follow up. Thirdly, never let a girl leave without setting up another date. Fourthly, never let a girl leave without at least trying to kiss her, and obviously all the steps of building up escalation before that kiss as well, and then yeah, try not to leave it more than, you know, two days or so before you arrange another date with her if you really like her. Like if you intend to only see her casually, you know, don’t… don’t see her too frequently because you’ll mislead her, right. So don’t give her like the impression you want to… want more than you’re actually prepared to offer if you she’s only a girl you want to date more casually.
But if you really like her and you want to be, you know, her boyfriend, you can see her a bit more regularly. But also, even though you sent her off and let her know you want to see her again, if you really like her don’t do the thing of like [Imitating] “Oh, I’m going to play it cool and like, not message her for three days” In this day and age guys in those three days she’s already been on three dates with three other guys… at least! Okay, so you think you’re being cool, you’re just an idiot, all right.
So you need to make it clear that you want to see her again before she leaves, and secondly you need to follow her up either the same night or the next day. Even if it’s just like a message like “Get home safe [your name]” after she leaves the date, right. You want to like re-initiate in some way and then that way she at least knows that you’re keen and stuff and then the next day you can send her another message, and again you at least need to know how to follow up in a way which isn’t just lame and needy