(Music) You’ve got to really get to a place of understanding these people are not God. And it’s not fair to put their mistakes or even your mistakes on God, all right. Mhm.
And you also have to allow yourself to connect with God not on a, just on a, a level of okay, well, this is what Christians do, this is what good people do. More so, or no let me find out what does God have to say to me? How does He want to guide me in my life?
What is it that He wants me to do? Because earlier you mentioned how you gave up friends, you gave up the girlfriend. You gave up all these things, but did God tell you to do that or your church told you to do that? I feel like it was, I feel like it was God.
You feel like it was God, why did you feel like it was God? Umm, because I feel like a lot of decisions that are big like that in my mind, I always feel like it has God like, in there. So, is, is, it’s sometimes where it’s like, men I drag it out and it’s still there and it’s like men, there something that I know I need to do.
Okay. And even looking back at it now I wouldn’t change it because I feel like at that time, yeah, umm, it feel like it was still the right decision. It’s like, like God told me to go to Indiana you know, and I know for a fact that’s the right decision because just, simply just doing the podcast we have way more flexibility. I think there’s a bigger picture to you going to Indiana.
I agree… Now, now, I know your story… I agree.
(Music) You’ve got to really get to a place of understanding these people are not God. And it’s not fair to put their mistakes or even your mistakes on God, all right. Mhm.
And you also have to allow yourself to connect with God not on a, just on a, a level of okay, well, this is what Christians do, this is what good people do. More so, or no let me find out what does God have to say to me? How does He want to guide me in my life?
What is it that He wants me to do? Because earlier you mentioned how you gave up friends, you gave up the girlfriend. You gave up all these things, but did God tell you to do that or your church told you to do that? I feel like it was, I feel like it was God.
You feel like it was God, why did you feel like it was God? Umm, because I feel like a lot of decisions that are big like that in my mind, I always feel like it has God like, in there. So, is, is, it’s sometimes where it’s like, men I drag it out and it’s still there and it’s like men, there something that I know I need to do.
Okay. And even looking back at it now I wouldn’t change it because I feel like at that time, yeah, umm, it feel like it was still the right decision. It’s like, like God told me to go to Indiana you know, and I know for a fact that’s the right decision because just, simply just doing the podcast we have way more flexibility. I think there’s a bigger picture to you going to Indiana.
I agree… Now, now, I know your story… I agree.
Ahhh. It was, it was definitely one of the reasons why I got there, but it got cold. (Laughs) I’m stupid. Anyways, but yeah, I mean I feel like, it differ when people persuade me when something where it was like you need to do this, you need to do this or you know, even telling myself it was like, I know this is wrong, I know this is unhealthy for me.
I know this, and especially the relationship with the girlfriend. I know it was wrong, and was unhealthy for us. Umm, because maybe and now honesty we were probably doing everything besides having sex.
So, it’s just like umm, as the new believer that’s not helping me in my work with God. So, I know biblically even for myself umm, it was the right decision to make. You know, and that was a very hard decision.
So, let’s go with that. Let’s go with it really was God telling you to let go of all those things and those people, but you mentioned how after you did it you didn’t see the reward so to speak. Yeah, I didn’t see what was, I thought was supposed to come from that. Exactly, so, let me ask you this one, what you thought was supposed to come was that something that you came up with in your own head or was that something that you felt God told you would come from those things?
A problem solved in my own head. Okay, all right. So, one, understand the difference between setting up your own expectations versus what you felt God is telling you was going to come into your life, all right.
Yeah, that’s, that’s tough because I feel like you, if you know you have like, you’ve given out something bad, you nurture, you want to expect something good out of it? And, and listen you’re right. However, the problem is as human beings we don’t know how to always process what’s good and what’s bad.
Our perceptions of those things can be very skewed for example, let’s say you were working at a job and God told you to let go these people, all right. And you’re thinking okay, you know what maybe this means I’m going to get a promotion at this job. God is going to do something special for me.
And then that job fires you. Now, in that moment you’re going to process this bad. Why did this happen to me? That’s unfair I follow God and now he set me up like this.
But for all you know you were getting fired because something else was going to come around that was going to pay you more, make you happier, and be the best thing that could ever happen to you. You can’t see that yet. You’re stuck in the moment and again, we process things a certain way and we think this is bad.
This is the worst that could happen, but the worst thing that could have happened can be the best thing that could have happened to you. And so, you have to be patient. So, when you say you know that was God that told you to do that and you feel very confident about the decision you made. For future reference, I’m saying stick with the process. The process doesn’t always bring an immediate reward, but the reward is coming.
So, I’ll use me as an example you know, I always feel like God was telling me to do this. This whole writing a book, relationship stuff, and for the first I don’t know, three years I was broke. Four years, I don’t know how many years because it was a long time, all right. (Laughs) And I mean dead broke, broke, broke, and it was a struggle. And so, even people were like, well, how can you tell us God is telling you this when you’re still broke, when you’re still struggling?
But just because it hadn’t happened yet doesn’t mean I heard wrong. It just means the time did not come. Now, we fast forward and I’m good I’m doing… Hey, hey, yeah, yeah, yeah, must be nice.
I’m doing better than people who, who were telling me get a real job, what are you doing? This is pointless leave it alone. So, I give that example and simply say don’t get caught up in what’s happening at the moment. That’s how faith is tested. You know, your faith isn’t tested until what’s happening in front of you doesn’t line up with what you thought God told you, all right.
That’s when you’re really going to be put to the ground and be like, all right, what are you going to do now? Are you going to still listen to God or you’re going to go on your own way? But I say this to you not for you to go back and beat yourself up about how you handled it, but for you to be strengthened moving forward because as you continue to have a relationship with God you’re going to hear more things. You’re going to be led in certain ways and you’ve got to be able to trust the process.
Sometimes, it takes time. You know what I’m saying? But again, I think that ultimately you’ve got to resolve your differences with God because here’s one thing I’ve learned. If we have any issue with God, we somehow think that we can have this issue, but still live this Godly life or still be this good person on the right path. And we can manage the situation, but you can’t.
That disconnect you got with God because at the core of who you are you have a foundation of God, all right. You have that belief system that is what you’ve been living or trying to live. And so, with this disconnect you have in this area with Him that’s creating a disconnect in all the other areas.
And that makes it harder for you to have clarity as to what He wants you to do, how you should be handling things and being able to be more confident and faithful in certain situations. So, definitely, the, your Father and God, which you know, again, it’s funny because you’ve combined those two things in your life, but one, we need to separate them and then we need to address them properly and I really, I am certain you do this your life is going change bro it’s going to be very, very different. And especially with these unhealthy relations you’ve had with women that’s going to come to a stop completely because as much as you may be trying to stop it right now if you don’t heal, you will be back in a situation like that. Yeah. You know.
So, are you prepared to take these steps? Don’t, don’t ask me that. No. I need you… I don’t pay you to do that. (Laughs) I need you to say you are prepared to take these steps.
I’m going to do this God damn, I’m prepared to take these steps. Okay, good, good, you know I’m going to hold you to it. Unfortunately, I know I can do it. (Laughs) Now, now, I know it needs to be done because I mean, I’m not like… (Music)